We are concerned here with alleviating the pressures coming from a passive aggressive marriage, by offering tools and behaviors that can bring more clarity to the relationship and more joy to our readers. As the tree above, supported by multiple roots, we believe in a combined strategy composed of multiple threads; it's not a lonely response but a combination of them which brings more self-esteem and satisfaction to women in this difficult situation.
We have short-term benefits of using our ebooks; but we deliver long term benefits also. If you change a small attitude consistently, day after day, you will find yourself changed after several weeks: you will be more certain of your responses and will be able to offer them in a consistent way.
Because, even using a lot of denial, it is impossible to ignore the accumulative pain of this kind of relationship...and the negative consequences of ignoring this problem along time will soon be evident. You will find yourself even more confused, scared and powerless than when you married him.
When you get information about your situation, a light is lighted in your brain...and you really appreciate the value of this information.
Before, you were confused, and disappointed; now, you have a name for his behaviors, and a whole set of reasons that explain why he is doing what he is doing to you. It's still painful, but now you know, and it makes a world of difference!
When you see this blog, you feel that you are in the right place to receive new ideas about how to grow stronger.
Now, looking at this picture, can you begin to imagine names for each one of the strands that reinforce the trunk of the tree?
- Your growing self-esteem;
- Your mind when it works to understand;
- Your heart, when you accept the situation and don't blame yourself;
- Your health, when you stop his stress-inducing communication style and ask for clarifications...
Look around your home, your life, with this question in mind:
"What else can work as my support? as my source of strength?"
and then, make a plan to include this factor in yourself, now.